BOOBS IN PUBLIC! WATCH OUT!
Ok, that never happens. Breasts are never out in public, they are always put away in a containing device that doesn’t bring any attention to them whatsoever.
Except for beer ads.
And car ads.
And lingerie ads.
And gun show ads.
And vacation ads.
And watch ads.
And jewelry ads.
And mall ads.
And liquor ads
And that’s just what I saw today on my train ride. The lingerie ad was on the side of a bus and each breast was bigger than my head.
But otherwise breasts are totally hidden from view.
Which is good because can you imagine what would happen if we saw breasts? Specially breasts feeding babies.
Breasts are particularly always hidden from children because seeing breasts will
leave them thinking breasts are a normal body part for women scar them for life. Even more so if the manner in which they see breasts doesn’t involve lacy bras or pasties or provocative poses.
We can’t have that now, can we? I mean, how would we explain to kids what is going on if they see a mother breastfeeding? The horrors! The mountain of therapy bills! The child that will think maybe women have bodily autonomy! (Here, if this nightmare should happen to you or someone you know, here’s what to tell a child should they see a mother breastfeeding. We can hold your hand through this, don’t worry, it will be ok.)
Thankfully, most of the time breastfeeding moms aren’t going to encounter any issue when they feed their babies in public. Given how often it is in the news and social media you would think it happens every single time a woman feeds her baby but alas, no. (Does anyone else wonder how all these shop owners and managers have missed the gigantic social media memo DON’T BOTHER BREASTFEEDING MOTHERS OR YOU WILL BE TORCHED ON THE INTERNET IN A HUGE PR NIGHTMARE!) Though the stories of women being harassed are what make the news, millions of mothers around the world feed their babies every day without interference. Shocking, I know. The most negative response the majority of women will ever receive may be a dirty look.
But what if you’re one of those unfortunate women who ends up with an ignorant and pushy individual demanding you leave an area or cover your baby and yourself while you feed your little one? How do you handle it? How do you handle it and keep your sanity intact? How do you handle it and keep your sanity intact and not end up going to jail?
We have a few suggestions. Take them or leave them. They’re not all going to apply to every situation and they may not be the best in the moment but hopefully they’ll provide some levity to the situation and keep you from losing your mind. What’s left of it from baby brain anyway. (You guys, that’s a thing. For real. Science says so. Maybe not quite what you think but it is a thing.)
How to handle negative reactions about feeding your baby in public.
We could go on, there are as many ways to handle such an experience as there are people willing to make those experiences happen. We’d love to hear your ideas, comment below with your suggestions.
by Kileah McIlvain
August is all about transitions. For some of us that means a new baby and learning how to care for yourself and your new little one. For some it means exploring new places as a family or returning to work after an end-of-summer vacation. Whatever you are transitioning to or from, you want a wardrobe that functions and feels great no matter the scene you find yourself in! A big shout-out to the ever-soft Naked Tank and the classically beautiful MelindaG for joining with us this week as we transition into autumn and all of the new possibilities that lay ahead! (Plus, If you haven’t already, subscribe to our latest newsletter just released yesterday and find an exclusive coupon code for Naked Tank!)
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Babymoon. It’s all about the comfort. I don’t know about you but recovering from one of the biggest body-marathons EVER should mean some major pampering and self-care for both you AND baby as you’re getting the hang of breastfeeding. I started out with this unique Cami Sutra Nursing Tank from MelindaG. This is the only tank I’ve ever personally used on the market that has a separate adjustable bra underneath the tank layer! This makes for a much more comfortable fit as your supply is adjusting and it layers so well with just about anything else in my wardrobe! I’m currently obsessing over comfy jogger pants like these ones from H&M that double as both sweats and break the mold of just yoga pants! Layering with a favorite cardigan and keeping your tootsies warm with Target’s slide slippers is a must. Need some extra care for sore nipples, sore bottoms, or milk supply? Earth Mama Angel baby has a great Postpartum Recovery Essentials Bundle that is PERFECT for taking care of the recovering mum! Needing extra support while you and baby are getting the hang of nursing? Ergobaby has JUST recently released their Natural Curve Nursing Pillow and we here at TLB give it the Leaky Stamp of Approval!
First Friday Art Walk
Here in Portland, we have a great art scene and regularly have what we call “First Friday” every month! There are local art walks and bistros open to wine tastings, curated food samplings, and great live music in the local squares and street corners! This look starts out with the Fresh Flow Dress (Best Zipper placement EVER!) layered with the incredibly soft Naked Nursing Tank! This tank is lightweight, breathable, and makes for quicker access to feeding baby while walking around in the Beco Soleil Scribble carrier-enjoying the sights and sounds around you! Throw in some great patterned leggings, some colorful chewbeads, and a small Ju-Ju-Be Quick Olive Juice bag (You can buckle it to your carrier and it holds all of your essentials for mama and baby!).
Office Space-Leaky Style!
Whether you’re returning to work as a teacher, back in the office after an end-of-summer vacation, or meeting your next client, I created this great transition look to be comfortable, classy, and trendy! I started with a great lightweight blouse from Torrid. It has a hint of summer with all the great qualities of a shirt that can be dressed up with belted Midi skirt, or dressed down a bit for date night with a pair of jeans and heels (these green heels from Modcloth are my current fave!). If you’re working long hours at the office, having a comfortable nursing bra like the MelindaG Smoothly Divine Bra is so important! (I have this one and seriously. It’s sooo flattering! Plus I have larger breasts and I LOVE the sizing range!). Finish your layered look with a beautiful jewel-toned cardigan or coat, DON’T forget some great nipple butter, and carry your favorite pump in a chic bag like this one from Juno Blu!
I’m going to keep this short and sweet:
LET’S GET MOVING!
It’s time for #TLBmoves and we’re working up a sweat and to an awesome giveaway with our friends from Tula, ThinkBaby ThinkSport, Belabumbum Active Wear, and Eyla’s Imports. Find out more information here.
Whatever it looks like for you, we’re supporting each other on getting moving towards health and wholeness. For many of us, learning about and then actually feeding our babies was the gateway to more conscientious living, a sort of snowball effect. Establishing health habits as a way of life is, of course, a good thing. And the family that moves together is healthy together. (For some inspiration, here’s 100 years of fitness fads in 100 seconds video fun.) Share your journey with us using the hashtag #TLBmoves on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter, and if you’d like to go deeper, submit your story like Kelsey by emailing [email protected].
I’m enjoying moving with my family and I’m moving closer and closer to Milk! Bringing together many of the people who inspire me, I’ve created Milk: An Infant Feeding Conference with Xza Higgins, founder of MommyCon. Taking place in L.A. July 31st and August 1st, this conference is for health care providers (offering continuing education credits and contact hours) and families. Founded on the belief that infant feeding support makes a difference and can directly influence confidence levels in parents, MiLK focuses on information sharing and mindful support that builds parents up without tearing down, respecting the unique journey of each of us. MiLK aims to actively educate and support infant feeding by connecting health care providers and the families they care for discussing breastfeeding, formula feeding, breastmilk pumping, at the breast supplementing, bottle feeding, cup feeding, spoon feeding… FEEDING. This is not, to be clear, a breastfeeding conference. It is an infant feeding conference with a goal of bringing together health care providers and parents where we can learn from each other. Most importantly, I hope we learn how to really listen and what support can really looks like.
To help you move that direction with me, we have a huge giveaway that includes enough tickets for your local breastfeeding group! For that extra newsletter entry option, GET YOUR INFORMATION HERE!
by Kileah McIlvain
One of the biggest things we want to encourage each other to do is to MOVE. Whatever you’re doing! Not just sports or working out, but PLAYING, Hiking, having FUN with your family, making better choices that help you thrive in the season of parenting you are in! I hope you love these collections I’ve picked out for you this week! Don’t forget to show us YOUR #LeakyLooks this week on Instagram and Facebook! Tag us and inspire us (and I’d LOVE to feature your look!).
Day On The Lake
Our family spent a day at a local lake (we have a LOT of them here, in the PNW!) and gosh, it was GREAT! Here I have a GREAT adjustable Shake Maternity Nursing Tankini from Mommy Gear paired with one of my FAVORITE Ju-Ju-Be Tokidoki bags! Having a lightweight, easy to get on-and-off water sling from Beachfront Baby Wraps is a MUST for enjoying the cool water with your baby! Thinkbaby suncreen in SPF50+ has ALSO been an essential for our family! We all have pretty fair skin and BURN like nobody’s business and this is one of the ONLY non-toxic EWG-recommended suncreens on the market that works and doesn’t give my little ones rashes (a problem we’ve had with so many other “safe” brands!). I finished this look off with some fabulous Chewbeads and a pair of sunnies from H&M and voila! You’re ready for Sun, Water, Play and getting your #TLBMoves on!
I am so excited to feature this look based off of this Belabumbum Nursing Racerback Cami specifically designed to be nursing-friendly AND high quality activewear! I have short hair, which makes using a Bolder Band from Simply Carried a MUST-HAVE (did you SEE what it says? #wearallthebabies! Yes. I want 5 of them. lol.And yes. The carrier would be amazing, too lol.). Staying hydrated with Eyla’s insulated water bottles are such a great choice! Tons of options for both kids AND adults and come in a range of glass, non-toxic plastic, and stainless steel! I added in a great inexpensive duffle bag from Target for carrying both yours and baby’s things in! And I don’t know if you are aware, but LUSH has the most AMAZING anti-chaffing powders/deoderants ever. (okok, my personal opinion but seriously. One bottle lasts a looong time, and it makes your skin so silky on those hot days! And smells ah-may-zing.). ThinkBaby Sunscreen in SPF50+ because NOBODY wants peeling sunburned skin in summer. Ewe.
Movies In the Park
One of Portland’s favorite summer pastimes is going out to the many outdoor movie screenings at dusk around the metro area! (Pretty sure there’s even a Portlandia episode that explains this. Seriously.) I centered this look around one of the most gorgeous lightweight nursing tops from Pink Blush Maternity paired with some simple skinny jeans. (bet you can guess what sandals I’d put with these! Yup. Birks. Big shocker there. :P) Unless it’s breezy when the sun goes down (sometimes this happens) You’ll probably be looked at as the local blood bank source for the local mosquitos so I added Badger’s natural bug repellant! DEET free and doesn’t make skin freak out or make you grow a 3rd arm. Bringing snacks and liquids for everyone is tradition here and Eyla has the perfect lightweight collapsible storage containers and double-insulated water bottles and thermoses! You may have to trek a bit to find the perfect spot to watch the screen so pushing baby in an Orbitbaby stroller is such a comfortable and posh way to go! Don’t forget to grab a great blanket throw from Target and BAM. Family night at the outdoor movie in the park is a GO!
by Kileah McIlvain
We’re gearing up for some HOT Independence Day celebrations this weekend here in the States! (Also, a shout-out to our Canadian Leakies today-July 1st! Happy Canada Day!) So much excitement going on around here that we decided to do a super patriotic #LeakyLooks theme as well as celebrate with Summer Magic Giveaway Bundle just for YOU! (Also, if you’ve joined our TLB Community on Facebook, I gave a super awesome hint about our Newsletter-exclusive secret code words for FIVE EXTRA ENTRIES for all running giveaways! Yeah. If you haven’t signed up for our Newsletter yet, you may just want to if you want to increase your chances of winning this super sweet bundle!)
This week we’re all about the patriotic stars and stripes and the good ol’ red, white, blue for our #BoobOutFashion! Take a look, see what we put together for you. Share, comment, repost on Instagram and Pinterest and show us YOUR patriotic #LeakyLooks this week! (and seriously. go sign up for the Newsletter. You won’t wanna miss this!). Scroll down to the bottom and enter that giveaway! Ready? Set? GO!
Grand Ol’ Flag Neighborhood BBQ
Here’s a great collection to help you feel put-together as you attend that neighborhood BBQ to celebrate the 4th festivities! I paired this GREAT Milk Nursingwear Contemporary Knot Top with a pair of cropped trousers from Old Navy! A beautiful Tula ring sling in Eclipse to show off your patriotic stars and a Bebe Au Lait nursing cover to give some shade for you and baby in that great July sun! A You!Lingerie bra and Babymel ‘Cara’ diaper bag complete this great red, white, and blue ensemble!
Patriotic Pool Party!
It’s ALL about the vintage and pinup bathing suits this year! Why? Because they’re so complimentary for YOU and they show how FABULOUS you are! I immediately went to Modcloth for this gorgeous pinup suit (and it’s easy boob access!) and paired it with a lightweight wrap skirt from Peace Love World for when you want some poolside sunbathing options! And since I’m a huge babywearing fan, I had to put TWO different carriers in-A great version of another Tula ring sling and one of the newest polkadot Ergobaby carriers! Pair these with some patriotic-themed chewbeads, some sunnnies, and a great Orla Kiely bag from Target, and you’re ready for a fantastic day on the lake, river or backyard pool!
Stars and Stripes Evening Gala
I couldn’t help but put this gorgeous evening look together for a beautiful evening dance set to the patriotic tunes of the night with fireworks booming in the background! I put this look together using this gorgeous navy dress from Modcloth paired with a fantastic pair of peeptoe vintage red pumps from them as well! A beautiful navy nursing bra from Cake and a small metallic clutch for the essentials. And I couldn’t resist finishing off the look with a beautiful silk ring sling from Sakura Bloom! Now you’re ready for an evening that is feeding-friendly and fashionably gorgeous!
Ready for our giveaway? Scroll down!!!
2 AppleCheeks Infinity Nursing Scarves – Retail Value: $64
1 AppleCheeks Swim Diaper – Retail Value: $19.50
For more information visit www.bebeaulait.com
Good luck to everyone! Please use the widget below to enter. The giveaway is open from July 1, 2015 through July 5, 2015. A big thanks to AppleCheeks, Bebe Au Lait, and Naked Tank for their support of TLB and all breastfeeding women.This giveaway is open to participants in the USA and Canada.
Can you feel it?! Summer, Fireworks (okok. I know some of you don’t like it, but hear me out. You might like the outfit I put together for the 4th better than the actual BOOM BOOM. lol. That is OK!) and simple yet fabulous outfits that allow you the freedom to explore the outdoors, grill outside, neighborhood movie nights projected on an old white sheet, juicy popsicles running down your chin….yeah. I get a bit excited!
We’ve got such a great collection for you Leakies this week! (Plus….a FANTASTIC giveaway from Applecheeks!). Have fun! Pin, Post, Instagram- let me know how you like these looks and what YOUR favorite summer outfits are for #BoobOutFashion!
Saturday Farmer’s Market
Isn’t this look adorable? I’ve been enjoying this lightweight nursing infinity scarf from Applecheeks and I put together this look for some great fun at the local Saturday market! I even found purple apple earrings from Etsy! Chewbead bracelets are a must-have for that sweet squish as they ride around in an Uppababy stroller! Don’t forget a chic Namaste mini messenger diaper bag in Caribbean Blue from Luv My Bag and an easy, lightweight pair of bermuda shorts from Old Navy and an easy-to-nurse-in White Flutter Sleeve top from Seraphine! (Yes. I totally added in my favorite Birks…because SERIOUSLY. They are amazing. And I live in them come summertime!)
Fireworks and BBQ
This one has got to be one of my favorite summer looks so far! I centered this whole look on the Tula baby carrier in Skipper! The striped nursing tank is one of my favorite tops from Figure 8 Maternity and I added in a simple red skirt from SheInside. Comfortable Ink Calf hair blue wedge Toms complete this patriotic look! And you’re probably wondering where that gorgeous striped diaper bag came from? Ikabags on Etsy makes them! Don’t forget an eco-friendly way to transport food and water!
Easygoing Boho Mama
This beautiful and easygoing look is based around the gorgeous BB Slen sling from Babylonia USA! Made ethically and from sustainable resources, this compliments the gorgeous breezy maxi dress from Maurices! I chose this gorgeous maxi for its range of sizes available and the gorgeous print (and easy nursing access!). Wooden and crocheted chew necklace from Etsy and an easy geometric wedges from Toms (as well as a gorgeous bag from Luv My Bag!)-you’re all set for an easygoing day that’s comfortable and functional AND lovely!
Ready to win a sweet bundle from Applecheeks?!
Here is what the winner gets:
Two Applecheeks Nursing Scarves, retail value = $64
Applecheeks Swim Diaper, retail value = $19.50
Applecheeks Bamboo Little Bundle Diaper, retail value = $28.85
Total value = $112.35!
Hurry! It ends Tuesday Night and is open to Leakies in the USA and Canada!
by Kileah McIlvain
This may come as a shock, but I’m not passionate about breastfeeding.
Which is why I hope you all can join me at Milk: An Infant Feeding Conference on August 1st in Los Angelas, CA. This conference is all about bringing together everyone involved in infant feeding conversations to learn how to listen, share information, and offer true support. Support that isn’t possible when we’re judging and shaming individuals.
Nearly every day we hear from moms they concern about how they are feeding their baby. Guilt weaves through their words. With heartbreak they share their story, aching at what they perceive to be failure and hoping we can offer some magic fix. We tell them all the same thing.
Feed the baby. That’s the first rule of infant feeding care, FEED THE BABY. Because no matter what methodology, the baby must be fed. Not feeding the baby IS failure.
If there were a first rule of infant feeding support, it should be “DON’T BE A JERK.” Followed closely by “SUPPORT THE PERSON OVER THE METHODOLOGY.” Being a jerk and supporting a methodology over people IS failure.
Feeding the baby isn’t failure.
Sometimes, the people that should be the most supportive, end up offering unsupportive support.
Hey Leakies! Summer is HERE (ok. ok. It officially starts on Sunday…but around here all of the schools have just gotten out for the summer and you can literally smell the sunscreen and freedom wafting in on the warm breezes we’ve been getting here in the Pacific Northwest!
This week we’re giving you some beautiful looks celebrating the beginning of summer in STYLE! pssssst…..Don’t forget to stay tuned for our Applecheeks Nursing Infinity Scarf giveaway!
To The Zoo We Go
This look I had to put together as we’re planning a zoo trip soon! Keeping it light and layered with an Applecheeks Infinity Nursing Scarf, a Yummielife.com nursing tank, and a Target.com pleated maxi skirt completed with a J. Crew summer hat andSalt Water Sandals from Modcloth! It’s important to have a simple but capable bag like this beautiful plum colored Juno Blu Pumping Bag and keep hydrated with a Sigg water bottle and I also added in some California Baby suncreen (great for kids AND adults!) and one of my favorite lightweight strollers: the Joovy Groove UltraLight! Set for a day of primate watching and exploring the animal kingdom!
Concert On The Lawn
This look was one of my favorites as here in Portland we get the treat of sooo many wonderful summer concerts outside! I centered this look around the Floressa Ayana Maxi Dress from Queen Bee, a Chambray jacket from Lulus.com, and Kokoro wrap in Mon Cheri. Our delicate grass around here can get a bit dry after the hot weather we’ve been having so I added in a soft blanket from Urban OutFitters. Best part about this ensemble? The Custom wrap conversion bag from Smiling Octopus. Isn’t it just amazing?!
Summer In The City
This look I curated around this beautiful lightweight button-down blouse (easy to nurse in!) fromAshleyStewart.com, the Anita Stretch microfiber nursing bra Bare Necessities and distressed jeans from Torrid.com. The cute summer hat is from Forever21.com and my current favorite suede wedges from Toms.com. When you’re trecking the concrete jungle in warmer weather, you don’t want a big bulky diaper bag to clunk around your midsection! I added in this gray canvas leather tote from Pottery Barn Kids as a sleek and understated option for carrying your essentials. Beco Soleil in Steps is one of the best lightweight carriers to explore the best haunts and food carts in with your baby!
Have a great week, Leakies! Don’t forget to enter our Applecheeks giveaway when I give the signal! Watch for it!!
by Kileah McIlvain
Around here at the TLB hub, we’ve been getting super excited about the MiLK Conference coming up in LA! Why? Because it’s about infant feeding. About supporting all moms…in every feeding journey…for all stages. So this week I curated three looks that highlight some aspects of our feeding journeys. What accessories or wardrobe choices empower YOU to be the best YOU for YOUR moment? YOUR journey? Let us know!
#BoobOutFashion #LBLWednesdays #LeakyLooks
Ok ok. I’m sure you snickered at the title. Postpartum-land isn’t exactly a vacation. It’s major recovery time and bonding time. But you know what? Who says you shouldn’t be pampered and loved and supported to help ease recovery and rest? I centered this look around a Belabumbum nursing gown that is loose, lightweight and cotton. You can wear with or without a soft wireless bra like this Bravado Silk Seamless nursing bra and some cushy slippers like these great Kiltie Moccasins from L.L. Bean! One of my besties gave me the Earth Mama Angel Baby Postpartum Recovery essentials bundle…the bottom balm? And the cooling mist for hemmorhoids? Yes. Just do it. I have 4 hobbits. I know these things. My wee lambs always come earthside with super-sensitive skin so we quickly learned that certain brands like Weleda continue to deliver in terms of clean chemical-free body products for the whole family! You and baby will be needing tons of skin-to-skin time so I collected a Swaddle Designs muslin blanket, Kate Quinn newborn hat, and a Cotton Babies Flip diaper (brownie points if you can guess which one!). Milk coming in can mean VERY tender breasts. The Cariwell breast soothers work magic and sooth those inflamed tissues working hard to make some milk! And don’t forget this beautiful Tula Migaloo Sorbet ring sling!
Don’t Stress Just Go!
We all need those options for days where we have to hit the ground running. I wanted to center this look based on the colors of the AppleCheeks infinity nursing scarf! Hues of Blue and Plum really work well for most skin tones and a skirt like this blue cotton skirt from Old Navy really elongates the legs without being too short for comfort! I paired it with the cotton H&M nursing shirt and a soft wireless Lamaze Intimates nursing bra in soft pink. One of my FAVORITE comfy yet functional shoes that are crafted to last is Born. Finished off the look with some lovely plum-colored earrings from Poshmark and the Timi & Leslie Charlie diaper bag and you’ve got a comfortable yet effortless ensemble that is going to last you through a whole day of post-school playdates and summer camps!
You WORK That Pump!
With this look I was just itching to feature a dress from Leche Libre’s collection! This designer is phenomenal and her subtle, utlitarian-yet-classic style really set her pieces apart. I found this Mermaid coral necklace from Humble Chic and used a Juno Blu pumping bag to compliment the Ardo Pump that I love so much (quietest pump EVER. And soooo easy to clean!). I just HAD to put in a Simple Wishes pumping bra because they WORK. And they work WELL! A simple lightweight cotton cardigan from Zara and some Crown Born vintage heels complete this versatile work look!
Show us how YOU rock your #LeakyLooks this week and tag us on Instagram or show us on Pinterest!