Car Seat Safety: The Mistakes I Made So You Don’t Have To

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Dear Leakies,

I’m not even going to tell you all the things I did wrong with my older kids when it comes to car seat safety but suffice it to say it was bad. Really bad. There was much I didn’t know considering I thought all that was involved in keeping kids safe in a vehicle was getting a car seat (might have used one purchased at a thrift store- ack!), buckling it in a car (this was before LATCH), and strapping them in.

Now, I could argue that my parents weren’t even in car seats and they turned out fine but I know that statistically the whole reason car seats were introduced by my generation was because they absolutely do save lives. My parents turned out fine but many other children of their generation died in car accidents. And my generation also turned out fine with seats that wouldn’t even come close to passing today’s safety standards but again, I understand that those standards are in place now because statistically they make a difference. Maybe not for me, but for some they have. Maybe those different standards have made a difference for my very own children.

Selecting, installing, and properly using a car seat can be a huge pain, literally and figuratively. I have a scar on my shin from installing one of our car seats a few years ago. I’d gladly take another one, that was the car seat my now 7 year old was in when we were in a hit and run when she was a toddler. She was the only one in the car that day that didn’t require medical care.

I’ve learned a lot even since then and I had learned a lot with her 3 sisters before her. That’s why we’ve teamed up with Clek for #TLBsafeKids, to help us all learn together. Sharing information, personal stories, and asking questions, Clek is helping us through #TLBsafeKids to keep our little ones safe. All through the year Clek is sharing information and support for families through our Ask the CPST feature on theleakyboob.com and on their Facebook page and Instagram.

Few topics are as explosive as child passenger safety on parenting social media sites, it can be right up there with breastfeeding in public, formula feeding, and circumcision. There are a lot of feelings tied to how we keep our kids safe and passion can easily turn information sharing into a bludgeon. Even though I sometimes disagree with what I may see on social media and in real life when it comes to child passenger safety there are a few points I have seen come from even the most heated debates.

  1. Parents love their children and want to keep them safe.
  2. Attacking people isn’t a teaching tool.
  3. Information can be overwhelming.
  4. Sometimes the minimum is the best someone can do.
  5. Judging doesn’t help anyone but the judger and even then only with a false sense of superiority.

Learning happens in stages, even as adults. Finding out there is something to learn, figuring out where to get the information and who to trust (Your mom? Your friend? Do you have to go to car seat school?), and fitting all that in with your life reality is a process. We need to be gentle with ourselves and with others through that.

So what do we really need to know when it comes to car seats?

There’s more than can be contained in a newsletter or a single article, in fact, there is car seat school. People can go to car seat school (not really called that) and become Child Passenger Safety Technicians. That’s just how much information there is.

You can find a CPST to help you install your seats (they have lots of bruises and scars from doing this so often) and that’s probably a good idea. It takes some time but often you can find places that offer that service for free and that time buys you peace of mind.

The rules from one seat may not apply to another. Manufacturers are the experts on their seats and your #1 resource for support. Have a question about your seat? Check your manual and if you still aren’t sure, call a manufacturer.

Be open to learning as you go. Get as much information as you can, but standards and even laws are changing all the time so being open to learning as you go can make a difference in how you’re keeping your child safe.

We’re here for you, sharing the journey and it’s ok if you don’t know something, we won’t judge. And there’s no way it could be as bad as what I did with my older girls- I’m just grateful they have lived to tell about it. We won’t judge but we will point out if we see something dangerous because of stories like this heartbreaking one of loss due to unknown car seat misuse.

Join us this Thursday, September 17th at 9 EST/8 Central/7 Mountain/6 PST for a live chat on The Leaky Boob Facebook page with Diono and Allana Pinkerton, CPST (she went to car seat school). We’ll have a giveaway and lots of information to share responding to your questions about car seat safety. Hope to see you there!

If you’d like to read more exclusive tips and articles on real life parenting, up-to-date carseat safety research and wholesome recipes with your health in mind, visit our latest newsletter HERE.

Happy Child Passenger Safety Week!

Jessica Martin-Weber

#LeakyLooks: Self-Care is Sexy

by Kileah McIlvain

I want to talk to you Leakies for a minute. It’s about self-care. Taking care of ourselves, even if it’s little things, can go a long way in filling our mama selves up so that we can function from a healthy place…not an empty place. We’re told so often in our culture that if we take care of ourselves, we are selfish. I’m here to say NOPE. A whole lot of NOPE.

When we take care of ourselves. Take a time out. Hit the refresh button. It changes us for the better. Maybe not a lot. But it WILL make a difference. I can tell you this: taking care of myself makes me feel amazing. Sexy, even!

Whether that is painting our nails some crazy color, soaking our feet in the bathtub, rubbing some lotion on our hands and practicing deep breathing, yoga, screaming in a pillow, locking ourselves in the bedroom closet with our fairtrade chocolate….WHATEVER it is…do it. Running on fumes isn’t fair for anybody, especially you. It’s amazing what we can accomplish for ourselves and each other when we practice filling ourselves up. So go. have a bit of fun. Recharge and remember what you love. Life is too short and too amazing to run it on empty.

So now? Check out these #LeakyLooks. Some fun and easy inspiration to get out there and practice some fun self-care. For me? We have a pretty epic gamefest family night planned for our brood this Friday (okok and Mommy is going to the Rose City Comicon on Saturday!)-and after the long week we’ve had we’re all looking forward to connecting with each other and having FUN.

Remember: You are always enough.

Park Playdate 

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I put this look together to highlight some great pieces that are a)GREAT mix of neutrals  b) are layered to help you function throughout the changing weather of fall  c)accommodate the milk demand with ease!  Sunscreen? Absolutely. Clouds don’t keep UVA/UVB rays. I trust California Baby’s natural sunscreen to do the job and Catbirdbaby to keep my little ones happy and provide the breaks they need to keep going!

1. Figure8Maternity  2.Target.com   3.American Eagle Outfitters   4.TOMS shoes   5.Cake Maternity   6.H&M   7.CatBirdBaby Love Bus  8.California Baby

Family Game Night!

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So one of our littles is down with a cold. Which usually means a good family night in is in order to help banish the grumpy clouds. It also means I’ll probably be getting the cold, too! So, I put in some of my comfy favorites and some fun additions for a family game night at home! My favorite additions are the Crane cool mist humidifier and the California Baby Super Booster bath drops that can be used in their cool plug-in diffuser! Safe alternative for banishing crankies and promoting happy vibes that are safe for little ones.

1.Belabumbum (on Zulily right now!)   2.MelindaG   3./4.California Baby   5.Target.com   6.Crane Humidifier   7.Amazon.com  9.Piggy Paint (nontoxic!)

Post Baby Date Night

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I don’t know about you but about 2 days after birth (I waited a couple of weeks before going out. Partner told me I had to stay in bed and nurse a baby. Sheesh. It’s like he knows I needed to recover or something.) I was clawing the walls wanting to get out. Probably walk 10 steps and sit down (movie theater with newborns are PERFECT. All they do is sleep, nurse/take a bottle and you get to snack the entire time. YES.). Anyhow, I put this awesome look together to keep things simple, comfortable, nursing-friendly and baby-friendly while feeling date-ready!

1.Figure8Maternity   2.Modcloth   3.Target.com   4.Modcloth   5.Lily Jade   6.Sakura Bloom

SAFE SLEEP: What it IS. What it ISN’T.

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Bonus giveaway code for the Baby Guy Box hidden in this week’s email, don’t miss out! 
Sleep. It’s on the brain. What is enough? How do we get more of it? Can you actually MAKE little people sleep? (HA! Trick question.) What is safe? What works for me? We’re talking about Safe Sleep for all ages this week with our TLB family. Want to get more advice on parenting or connecting with your family? Jump down to Our Stable Table and Beyond Moi or get connected on our NEW Facebook Group for more tips on #TLBsafeKids

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Hey Leakies,How ya sleepin’? One of the most common questions new parents get is if their baby is a “good” sleeper or if they’re sleeping through the night “yet” (asked as soon as day 2). As if sleep is some determiner of quality parenting, these questions are poised with utmost concern, as if the number of hours an infant sleeping being the ultimate in parenting success.But nobody is asking if our babies are sleeping safely.

Well, we are. This month we’re focusing on safety with #TLBsafeKids with our sponsors with clek car seatsCalifornia Baby skin careNewton crib mattressesCatBirth Baby CarriersCrane USA humidifiers, and Rhoost and we’re talking about it all, including safe sleep. It is a controversial topic, not everyone agrees on what constitutes safe sleep arrangements for infants. Not even public health officials. Campaigns focused on completely different ends of the spectrum abound. We’re not here to tell you one right way, we’re here to engage in a conversation and share information together. We respect you to make the best, informed decision that is right for your family according to the resources, circumstances, and information that are a part of your reality.

So, is your baby sleeping safely?

Safe sleep can look several different ways. Here are some of my favorite resources for safe sleep information. Pick what works for you.

  • Co-sleeping: room-sharing. Setting up the space to work for your family is key. If the baby’s sleep space is attached to the parental bed or not depends on your needs. Room sharing could be a bassinet by your bed, a co-sleeper (such as Arm’s Reach) attached to your bed to facilitate breastfeeding, a converted crib set up to side-car with the parental bed, a free-standing crib (safe crib set-up here), or a safe mattress on the floor. There are options and it is likely you’ll need to adapt as your child grows. There’s a good amount of evidence that room-sharing can be a great thing!
  • Co-sleeping: bed sharing. Anthropologist and leading infant sleep expert, Dr. James McKenna from the University of Notre Dame has many resources for co-sleeping families here. Detailed safe co-sleeping arrangements describedhere. This WikiHow has a thorough step-by-step guide for setting up your bed sharing space safely and Rebecca Michi shares how to safely figure out what works for your family with bed-sharing here.  Why the normal infant wants to be at your chest– one of my favorite articles on normal, healthy, term infants sleep and feeding behavior.
  • Separated sleep: own room. Be it in a crib or a Montessori bed (what’s that and why?), setting your baby up in their own room also requires intentional safe set-up. I love this in-depth check-list for safe crib set-up. And here are some tips for when it is time to transition your child from a crib to a bed.
  • Separated sleep: shared room with other child. As a mom of 6, whenever our babies have transitioned out of our room, they’ve pretty much transitioned into sharing a room with a big sister. There are some special considerations to make when setting up space for siblings sharing a room together at a young age. You’ll need to check for additional safety concerns for room sharing with siblings such as checking that choking hazards haven’t been introduced to your younger child’s bed (*cough* Legos *cough*) or that the sleep space has otherwise been compromised. The same safe sleep standards for cribs apply if you’re using one and it isn’t recommended for infants to co-sleep alone with siblings. Here’s what a Montessori bed set up for twins looks like and the mom shares what she has learned along the way.

As a family we have also made some other arrangements for our sleep space safety. For our basement bedrooms, we use air purifiers (we’re in an old musty house) and during the winter when we’re running the heat, we have humidifiers running in all of our sleep spaces. Babies in particular benefit from having a humidifier running when they are sleeping (tiny nasal passages mean tiny pathways for their air!) see here for info and ideas, (but make sure you’re avoiding potential problems by caring for your humidifier correctly!) so we make sure to have a humidifier set up where our babies are sleeping.

However you and your littles ones are sleeping at night may it be safe and eventually, enough.

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Peace,

Jessica Martin-Weber
Founder, TheLeakyBoob.com

#LeakyLooks: Safety Wherever You Roam

by Kileah McIlvain

We are into full autumnal mode around here, Leakies! I finally want to look at my oven (Yes…even bake in it!) again, and my soft fluffy duvet and an extra mug of homemade pumpkin latte are calling my name. Which means of course the weather is mocking me by trying to push 90 degrees by Thursday.

Have you ever “forced” the coming season? Had it and said “Ok. I’m over it. Let’s move on?” Well this week with #LeakyLooks we’re taking a look at Safety-whether that’s snuggling down for a morning of movies and snuggles on a cloudy Saturday, or that last-minute trip up to Seattle before the seasonal rain hits the I-5 corridor. Let me know in the comments what you’d like to see next as we celebrate a month of #TLBsafeKids!

Remember, Leakies. Fashion-even breastfeeding fashion- is a great way to express who YOU are and tell a story of WHERE you are. Not who anyone else says you need to be, but who YOU want to be today. So shine on. Be YOU. All the way. No regrets. Because you are always ENOUGH.

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We don’t make spur-of-the-moment trips that often with 4 little ones, but when we do, we GO for it! We pack light, pack the essentials, and get our roadtrip on (our kids last about 3 hours, which makes Seattle or the beach our only options for realistic road travel. lol.) I put this look together to highlight some of my “mama and baby” essentials! I am an organizing enthusiast so anything that can stack well, compartmentalize well and not take up a ton of space is totally my jam.

1.Figure8Maternity Bobbi Nursing Shirtdress   2.Cake Maternity Raisin Croissant bra   3.Clek Fllo Tokidoki    4.California Baby Suncare Basics tote    5.Ju-Ju-Be Be Prepared   6.Rhoost grooming kit    7.ThinkSport GO2 container

 

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Oh Plaid. How I love thee. Let me count the ways! This look I pulled from some of my own wardrobe staples (including one of my favorite natural hand sanitizers!) One of our family’s favorite autumn activities is going to one of the many local farms we have in the area and sampling all of the fall bounty and preserves everyone has brought to the local farm markets! Weather is kind of back and forth so it’s best to dress in layers.

1.Modcloth Bonfire Stories Tunic (easy to nurse in!)   2.AE Wide Brim Fedora   3.Torrid Skinny jeans    4.Bebe Au Lait Nursing Infinity Scarf   5.Catbirdbaby Mei Tai in Victoria   6.California Baby Lemon Myrtle hand sanitizer    7.Target Women’s Premier Tall Rain Boots

 

 

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Bedtime. No matter where we are, that compound word is cause for exhausted celebration. A simple bedtime routine around here for our littles includes brushing hair, brushing teeth, and massaging a bit of therapeutic oil to relax and calm fidgety tired bodies. We usually run a cool mist humidifier at night as well to keep the air moist as our house can get a tad dry in the fall and winter.

1.Target Daizies Union suit   2.Rhoost grooming kit   3.California Baby Overtired & Cranky Massage Oil   4.I just want to knit this. Or have someone on Etsy make it for me 😛 knittinglove   5.Newton allergen-free crib mattress   6.Crane cool mist humidifier   7.Coyuchi organic crib sheets

Newsletter: Babywearing Gone Wrong and Three Safety Tips with #TLBsafeKids

 

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Dear Leakies,

What is your biggest fear for your children’s safety? Does it keep you up at night or creep up on you when you’re relaxing? Does it make it hard to enjoy life sometimes?

I have a few. Some I don’t even want to write down here because it makes it seem more real, more possible as a threat. How do we cope with that worry?

Worrying is kind of part of the job description for parents. With all the warnings we receive about keeping our kids safe, it can be easy to be overwhelmed with all the could happen. We’re ditching fear and choosing to confidently inform and equip ourselves instead. Because our children can be in danger even when they are literally tied onto our bodies. Babywearing safety is a thing, and for good reason (check here to see if you are making these common babywearing mistakes).

For the month of September, #TLBsafeKids is a campaign (read about it here) with clek car seats, California Baby skin care, Newton crib mattresses, Catbird Baby Carriers, Crane USA humidifiers, and Rhoost home safety, to support parents in learning and implementing safety practices that don’t bog us down in worry but give us the tools to feel confident even as we’re aware of the risks around our families.

I don’t have all the answers but I have learned a few things about IMG_4122keeping children safe and not being controlled by worry. They aren’t feel good tips, in fact, they’re rather unsettling but if you can embrace them if can be incredibly freeing. My top 3 tips for protecting our children without stifling and crippling them or ourselves:

Recognize that you can’t protect them from all danger. If you think you can, you’re more likely to miss danger when it sneaks up on you. Accepting that they will be hurt, they will experience scary situations lets you put your energy into recognizing which ones pose the biggest threat and equipping them to recognize that as well. Instead of trying to eliminate all risk (which will greatly increase the risk that your children will resent you some day), aim to reduce real risk and learning how to manage lower risks concerns.

Inform yourself and be open to being educated by others. If you can’t receive safety advice or warnings from others without getting offended, you’re going to end up out of touch and out of date on the most current recommendations. That will increase your risk of making a potentially dangerous mistake. We should always be learning and just because you’ve always done it one way doesn’t mean you should keep doing it that way. So much of our safety concerns have increased because many of us feel less connected to community. Sharing together, looking out for each other, admitting our concerns and our mistakes, and passing along information can go a long way in protecting all of our families. Looking out for each other is safer. If you’re looking for a judgment-free support community talking about all aspects of safety, join the Facebook group #TLBsafeKids.

Learn to listen to your gut. I know, it sounds so vague, but being out of touch with ourselves and that sense when things are right or wrong can cause us to tune out when we should be tuning in. Teaching our children to listen to that sense can make a difference between them trusting the wrong person because they feel it is more important that they be nice, and coming you with their concern that something isn’t right. And a child who learns how to listen to that part of them that sometimes just knows will also be more confident in making friends and moving in society as they won’t see everyone as a potential threat.

The good news is we’re not in this alone. Though it is easy to judge other parents from a distance, if we come together to support each other, we can be that much stronger.

Here’s to growing daily and finding the confidence to be safe while living freely.

For more information on babywearing safety and more resources in parenting and living holistically, CLICK HERE

Peace,

Jessica Martin-Weber

Founder, TheLeakyBoob.com

#LeakyLooks Like Labor Day!

by Kileah McIlvain

So up until about…oh…two days ago I thought Labor Day was September 1st. My type A personality was swimming in glee until I realized that the powers that be decided that the first Monday in September was on the 7th. After I recovered from my acute “things are out of order” internal tantrum, I realized how much fun it could be! My little ones started back to school on the first, and nothing says “Wow! Happy back to school!” like Labor Day a “week later” than it normally is!

So here I give you a trio of #LeakyLooks, featuring some of my favorite #TLBsafeKids products! Yes. I put together a “Get Well Soon” look…because a certain TLB mama and her family are going through a cruddy cold bug right now and nothing says comfort like all of our favorite “feel good” things. <3 Want to post your favorite “feel good” #LeakyLooks or #LaborDayLooks and tag us on Instagram? I’d love to share your picks with our Leakies! 

Pax Under The Sea

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This look I just couldn’t resist putting together! I pulled this look together using some of PAXbaby’s favorite pieces! Jillian, owner of PAXbaby, is a Disney cosplay genius and lover of rainbows and color. So this one’s for YOU, Jillian! May all of your rainbows be bright and your days be full of color and joy<3

1.Etsy MoodKatz top   2.West of the Fourth wrap bag 3.Green Tree Jewelry Mermaid earrings 4.Fishscale leggings  5.PAX-exclusive Bling Sunnies 6.Tula Migaloo Happy Ring Sling   7.Blue Merbaby onesie  8.All Day Rainbow PAX-exclusive amber necklace   9.Jade Made Wristlets      10.Boobie Boosters  11.Blissed Out Gypsy seahorse ring   12.Blissed Out Gypsy woven wrap skirt

Labor Day at the Lake

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Ah! The last hurrah of summer. We have to take a bit of a road trip to get to our favorite lake (yes…there are a LOT of them around here!) So what better way than to travel safely and have a natural skin-safe day! ends of the summer here are still warm enough that we have to deal with mosquitos from time to time so from sunscreen to bug repellant and swimwear that is breastfeeding friendly, we’ve got you covered!

1.Haley Nursing bathing suit   2.OiOi Hobo Diaper Bag   3.Mini Boden baby swimsuit   4.California Baby broad-spectrum sunscreen   5.California Baby natural bug spray   6.Clek Foof carseat   7.Target beach blanket tote   8.Green Toys sand play set   9.Catbird Baby Limited Edition Lovebus   10.Sanuk Women’s yoga spree flip flop

Get Well Soon

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Here are some of my favorite picks for when our family is feeling under the weather. Comfort, warmth, and keeping a sick baby close to me are absolutely essential. Hope this inspires you to stock up before cold and flu season hits us!

1.Belabumbum Ikat tunic and pant set   2.MelindaG sleep bra   3.Catbird Baby Annika Grey Piccolo carrier   4.Traditional Medicinals Cold Care tea for kids   5.Threshold sweater knit blanket   6.Kinsa smart thermometer   7.California Baby Calendula Cream   8.Under the Nile reversible cardigan/pant set   9.California Baby Calming Massage Oil   10.California Baby Colds Flu aromatherapy bath bubbles   11.Crane Oscar the Owl cool-mist Humidifier   12.EmergenC immune support   13.NoseFrida Snot Sucker   14.Rhoost baby grooming kit

#LeakyLooks Back-To-School Fun!

by Kileah McIlvain

It’s that time of year again! Our Facebooks and Instagram feeds are filling up with photos of newly-cut hair, carefully-chosen first-day-of-school-outfits, smiling shiny faces and brand-new backpacks full of new sharpened pencils (I have a thing for new school supplies. I’m pretty sure I get more joy out of shopping at Target for them than my kids do!). For a lot of us, this means school drop-off and pick-up, bringing our babies along to cozy coffee-shop playdates (in Portland we have several kid-friendly coffeeshops set up with puzzles, wooden toys, and play kitchens). Falling back into a fresh, more predictable routine after the adventures of summer vacation is something I look forward to with my trusty day planner! (Yes. I’m the rabid scheduler. Because #MomBrain)

So here are some of my first #LeakyLooks picks for this week. Outfits designed to not take much brain space, #boobfriendly for easy pumping and breastfeeding access, and easy to put together! What are some of YOUR favorite things you look forward to when school starts back up? Tell us in the comments on this post-we’d love to share with our Leakies!

Stumptown Playdate

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It’s all about clever layering this fall! Pieces that can be worn by themselves or layered with something else as the weather starts changing and becoming more unpredictable. This brilliant nursing dress is designed to work well as a stand-alone piece or layered over a collared shirt or nursing tank/bra. From lined rainboots and a lightweight cardigan, to cognac-colored handbags and a simple wine-colored ring sling-this collection is a great way to bring in autumn and work well throughout your day!

1.Leche Libre Tunic in Slate   2.Forever21 Classic Opaque Tights in Burgundy   3.DairyFairy Arden Bra in Slate   4.DidySling Indio Rubin Red    5.Joules Rainboot Bees Print   6.Modcloth Bicycle Education Cardigan    7.Kohl’s Croft & Barrow Satchel in Brown Sugar   8.H&M necklace and earrings

Mama On A Budget

Nursing fashion on a shoestring

Would you believe this whole look was created under $50? You can still feel put together and functional without having to sell your right arm or backup breastmilk stash hanging out in your freezer! From start to finish, this look is a great way to ease into fall without being too fussy. Our unusual summer here isn’t quite over so we’re still having to pair layers with shorts at times! To find where I got these great deals, see below.

1.Target Linen V-Tee Merona    2.Faded Glory Women’s Infinity Scarf w/Tassles    3.Old Navy Sweetheart cuffed denim shorts   4.Zulily.com Seashell Pink Nursing Bra   5.H&M Accessories    6.Poshmark.com maroon ballet flats    7.H&M Shoulder Bag

Milk & Cocktails

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I was in a dead sprint on Sunday headed from a birth I was doula at, to a wedding on the other side of town. With 15 minutes to put together a quick classy look that was nursing-friendly and golf-club-reception-ready. My husband absolutely LOVES fashion (I know. It’s AMAZING. He always knows my size and shape for EVERYTHING. I love him!) and he picked out an outfit similar to this one. I hope you enjoy.  🙂

1.Modcloth I Think I Can Dress in Teal    2.Wildbird Double Layer in Dove    3.AE Navy Draped Feather necklace    4.Cake Dark Croissant Smoothing Flexi-wire nursing bra    5.Sophi non-toxic nail polish  6.Sofft Desma in Firesky    7.Storksak Olivia Diaper Bag/Handbag

Newsletter: I Was Doing It Wrong-Size DOES Matter!

 

 

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Dear Leakies,

Size matters! See a HUGE difference! You can improve your satisfaction by 100%! See immediate results!

(Size matters unless we’re talking the bellies of women, then what matters is knowing when it’s appropriate to ask a woman if she’s pregnant. Carrie explains here.)

I know what you’re thinking… but no, I’m not talking about some little blue pill or new performance enhancing product (though you can read about exploding penises on Beyond Moi this week and more further down in the newsletter). This is way more fun than sex: we’re talking about breast pump flanges.

My definition of fun has a direct link to lactation about 90% of the time. I don’t understand why this is not normal for everyone.

(Next week we kick off a month in September talking about keeping our kids safe with #TLBsafeKids.)

Five years ago I learned that for my previous 4 babies I had been using the wrong size flanges for my breasts when I was pumping. Years of pumping that was painful all because I didn’t know I needed a different size flange! Then, when I did get the right size for me, not only did pumping NOT hurt, I got way more milk.

My mistake had cost me and my baby precious milk.

All that time I had no idea!

Whatever your reason for pumping your breastmilk, be it for your baby while you’re away from them at work, for the occasional date night, or for another baby through milk donation (if you’re a donor, this letter is for you), the right size flanges matter and can make a huge difference.

Not sure if you are using the right sizes? See this video from Shari Criso, IBCLC made available from our friends at Evenflo Feeding. And if that is helpful, be sure to check out Evenflo’s Facebook page and Shari’s Youtube channel. They’re going out of their way to support every family in reaching their feeding goals and to do so comfortably and confidently in their journey. If you’re looking for products that aid you in that journey, Evenflo may have just what you’re looking for here.

(Also, don’t miss out on this collection of pumping tips from Snugabell with The Leaky Boob family.)

Giveaway time! This is the last week of World Breastfeeding Month and while over here in TLB land we’re going “woohoo! World Breastfeeding Month! Wait… it’s always World Breastfeeding Month here…”, it is exciting to see so many voices talking about supporting women in reaching their breastfeeding goals one month of the year. Thankfully, there are those who continue supporting such efforts the other 11 months of the year. TLB has teamed up with several of those brands to bring you the WBW2015 Wrap Up Giveaway with over $2,200 in prizes. Find the secret code word entry option lower in our newsletter (you’ll have to really read closely to find it!) and spread the word because while every month is World Breastfeeding Month to us, it only captivates the world’s attention one month a year.

Happy Breastfeeding and Happiest of Pumping! Thanks to Evenflo Feeding for supporting The Leaky Boob and our community with their sponsorship. The information and community they provide as every baby’s advocate and every parents ally is invaluable. We’re grateful for their participation in our community.

I leave you with this: the funniest breastfeeding-related post on the internet this week is in the private TLB community group on Facebook. Be prepared to cry laughing when you read this.

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Peace,

Jessica Martin-Weber
Founder, TheLeakyBoob.com

#LeakyLooks: Pump it UP!

by Kileah McIlvain

Pumping Moms. Working and running the office. Pumping for their own baby and for another around the clock. Getting ready for their first date without baby.

These warrior mamas, whatever their environment, are changing a life one ounce of breastmilk at a time. 

Before I share my #LeakyLooks picks for you this week, can I just take a moment to give you mamas a virtual hug? Because you inspire me. You show me that I can do this. Mothering. Working. Partnering. I hope that in some small way I can inspire you this week, Leakies. To inspire you to harness that internal power you have always had. To know that you are blooming from the inside out. That all of you is more than enough, and that you are beautiful. That being yourself, no matter where life takes you, will be what profoundly changes lives around you. So keep thriving, Leaky. We’re doing this together.

Because we are, and always will be, enough. 

Pumping For Two

Pumping For Two

This look is a shoutout to my exclusive pumping friends and for those who are pumping to donate milk to a mama and baby in need. Life has to keep going, even when you’re pumping around the clock so this #LeakyLook is all about feeling put together, comfort, and easy access when you’re on the go!

1. Old Navy Boyfriend Chambray buttoned top   2. AE Outfitters lightweight scarf   3. Torrid Lean Jeans in Faded Medium Wash   4. Elomi Beatrice Soft Cup Nursing Bra   5. Snugabell Pumpease pumping bra   6. Beco Baby Carrier in “Steps”   7. OiOi Crushed Wax Canvas Satchel Diaper Bag   8. Dr. Browns Glass bottles

All That Class

All That Class

This beautiful #LeakyLook is to show how a put together look can be beautiful, functional and get you comfortably through a long day pumping at work! Why did I include a baby hat? Because having something nearby with your baby’s scent is a good way to encourage letdown when you’re pumping. (Ok, and it’s just adorable!)

1. Seraphine Graphic Floral Nursing Dress   2./3. Modcloth Necklace and earrings   4. Trenchcoat from Macy’s   5. Say It Quaint So Heel from Modcloth   6. Motherlove Nipple Cream   7. Juno Blu Esalen Pumping Bag               8. Cake Licorice Twist Flexible Wire Nursing Bra   9. Hanna Andersson knit baby hat 

Getting Ready For Date Night

Getting Ready For Date Night

I remember my first date night with my partner, just the two of us, after our youngest was born! It was slightly nerve-wracking and exciting. Carefully pumping milk in my little black nursing dress while I got ready before my husband came home, shaving my legs, picking out my outfit. I wanted to feel fabulous. For this #LeakyLook I wanted to go with simple and chic. (My favorite part? The calm drops from Calm-a-Mama. Helped to calm my anxiousness when leaving baby for our dinner and a movie! Small enough to fit in my clutch.)

1. Milk Nursing Wear Little Black Nursing Dress   2. Belabumbum Lena Peek-A-Boo Nursing Bra   3. Sophi non-toxic nail polish in “Featured Attraction”   4. Fossil Emory Clutch in “Bright Pink”   5. On Point! Earrings from Modcloth   6. Tea and Jam Session Wedge from Modcloth   7. Calm Drops from Calm-a-Mama

#LeakyLooks: Here, There, Everywhere!

by Kileah McIlvain

August is all about transitions. For some of us that means a new baby and learning how to care for yourself and your new little one. For some it means exploring new places as a family or returning to work after an end-of-summer vacation. Whatever you are transitioning to or from, you want a wardrobe that functions and feels great no matter the scene you find yourself in! A big shout-out to the ever-soft Naked Tank and the classically beautiful MelindaG for joining with us this week as we transition into autumn and all of the new possibilities that lay ahead! (Plus, If you haven’t already, subscribe to our latest newsletter just released yesterday and find an exclusive coupon code for Naked Tank!)

Love our #LeakyLooks? Share, Pin, tag us on Instagram and show us how YOU like to rock your #LeakyLooks!

 

Babymoon

BabyMoon

Babymoon. It’s all about the comfort. I don’t know about you but recovering from one of the biggest body-marathons EVER should mean some major pampering and self-care for both you AND baby as you’re getting the hang of breastfeeding. I started out with this unique Cami Sutra Nursing Tank from MelindaG. This is the only tank I’ve ever personally used on the market that has a separate adjustable bra underneath the tank layer! This makes for a much more comfortable fit as your supply is adjusting and it layers so well with just about anything else in my wardrobe! I’m currently obsessing over comfy jogger pants like these ones from H&M that double as both sweats and break the mold of just yoga pants! Layering with a favorite cardigan and keeping your tootsies warm with Target’s slide slippers is a must. Need some extra care for sore nipples, sore bottoms, or milk supply? Earth Mama Angel baby has a great Postpartum Recovery Essentials Bundle that is PERFECT for taking care of the recovering mum! Needing extra support while you and baby are getting the hang of nursing? Ergobaby has JUST recently released their Natural Curve Nursing Pillow and we here at TLB give it the Leaky Stamp of Approval!

First Friday Art Walk

First Friday Art Walk

Here in Portland, we have a great art scene and regularly have what we call “First Friday” every month! There are local art walks and bistros open to wine tastings, curated food samplings, and great live music in the local squares and street corners! This look starts out with the Fresh Flow Dress (Best Zipper placement EVER!) layered with the incredibly soft Naked Nursing Tank! This tank is lightweight, breathable, and makes for quicker access to feeding baby while walking around in the Beco Soleil Scribble carrier-enjoying the sights and sounds around you! Throw in some great patterned leggings, some colorful chewbeads, and a small Ju-Ju-Be Quick Olive Juice bag (You can buckle it to your carrier and it holds all of your essentials for mama and baby!).

Office Space-Leaky Style!

Office Space-Leaky Style!

Whether you’re returning to work as a teacher, back in the office after an end-of-summer vacation, or meeting your next client, I created this great transition look to be comfortable, classy, and trendy! I started with a great lightweight blouse from Torrid. It has a hint of summer with all the great qualities of a shirt that can be dressed up with belted Midi skirt, or dressed down a bit for date night with a pair of jeans and heels (these green heels from Modcloth are my current fave!).  If you’re working long hours at the office, having a comfortable nursing bra like the MelindaG Smoothly Divine Bra is so important! (I have this one and seriously. It’s sooo flattering! Plus I have larger breasts and I LOVE the sizing range!). Finish your layered look with a beautiful jewel-toned cardigan or coat, DON’T forget some great nipple butter, and carry your favorite pump in a chic bag like this one from Juno Blu!